I've been having a great little week. My budgeting has been AWESOME, even with a surprise decision to go to the NCAA Championship this week (I have an undying love of basketball); I've maintained my budgets and have a nice little savings started.
Then I get an email on Wednesday. From my best guy friends fiancee. She's not in love with him anymore and wants to break the engagement. AND SHE HASN"T TOLD HIM YET. *Hits brakes hard* Why the hell is she contacting me first?! What am I supposed to do with this information?! Holy hell, what is going on?!
Apparently she felt the need to contact me because she 'wants to make sure he's ok afterwards'. She feels he's too possessive of her and that it could at some point border on violence. I was clear to say I had never seen a possessive bone in his body, but at the same time I have NO CLUE what goes on "behind closed doors", ya know? I did ask if he had ever hit her - because regardless of being a bestie and someone I've known since I was 11 years old (will be 30 this year) - but hitting a woman is NOT acceptable. Thank Jesus, she admitted that there has never been an incident.
Um...now I can handle breakups, but ENDING AN ENGAGEMENT is new territory for me. Recovery for men is different for women, all I can think is that it involves alcohol and strip clubs for men. I'm not sure that I can honestly prepare myself to help him with that.
So I ended up having a mini-friend crisis break by spending that evening at a local sushi place. I was ok with ordering whatever I wanted and threw in 2 martinis for good measure. Total bill ended up only being $30 which was truly amusing to me as the martinis were $9 a piece, so clearly I didn't go as insane as I thought with food.
Basically I'm just in a holding pattern with this info. The fiancee admitted she was lost and so confused, so I'm hoping this is just cold feet, but I guess we shall see.
Jesus, if this shit happens with relationships, I'm fine without one.
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